18. A toxic relationship can hurt more than just your feelings

Episode #18

Whether you are aware that it's a toxic relationship or not, it will start to take a toll on you on your health, and on your well-being. Toxic relationships don't start toxic because everything is perfect when it's starting and this is the point in time when you are both learning about each other and they take that very seriously.  They're trying to figure out your buttons and how you work when they push your buttons.

 You might not realize that you're in a toxic relationship, to begin with, but at some point.  This toxic relationship starts to negatively impact your physical and your mental health.  It does matter how long you've been in the relationship and the longer you've been, obviously; the more the damage has become.

When you are in a toxic relationship it starts to make you feel insecure about yourself and that's how everything starts. It starts with the way you feel about yourself. You start to feel insecure. You start to question yourself,  your answers, your actions, over those of your partner. You start to feel like you're drained and unhappy. And you put all the pressure on you, and you alone. When you start to feel bad about yourself, you start blaming yourself for things that have gone wrong in the relationship that are not necessarily your fault. The problem is, that if you don't face the reality that it's not you, but the relationship that you are in, these situations will slowly start to influence your health, not just your mental, psychological, or emotional health.

Three ways a toxic relationship can hurt you:

  1. It destroys your self-love, self-esteem, and self-confidence. 
  2. Destroys your energy
  3. Everything is sprung into negativity

Once you have been in it for a while, you start perceiving everything that you are living as something normal, bringing all your levels of toxicity to a higher level. Then you start seeking other relationships that could be toxic as well in their own way. It seems like it's normal for you and your environment and it doesn't cause you any red flags or any alarms. People have lost their lives because they have continued in toxic relationships that gradually have eaten away at the core of their personality. It seems like it's normal for you and your environment and it doesn't cause you any red flags or any alarms. People have lost their lives because they have continued in toxic relationships that gradually have eaten away at the core of their personality.

You were born to be great. God created you in his image. So you are a masterpiece and when you are in such a dark place The line starts to get blurry and it becomes even harder to tell the toxicity around you, this starts attacking your mind, your self-esteem and your self-love drops to the floor because of the constant put-downs from your partner and any of the other people around you. You're going to have to put in the work to make all of this change. You're going to have to put in the work with yourself or One-on-one with a coach like myself.

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